In the second installment of our two-part episode, Emily and I break down the little things couples do (often to each other) that make a relationship suck. To kick things off, we talk about the scene in the movie The Good, The Bad And The Ugly itself that's the best metaphor for how men and women ruin their relationships together. Next, we talk about the importance of realizing that some allegedly 'small' annoyances in a relationship are actually HUGE to the other partner. And YES...you want examples, and we've got 'em. What's the difference between being snarky and being a smart-ass...and is either okay? What are some dangerous ways that bad parenting can actually negatively affect your relationship? What should always be off the table in any disagreement and NEVER fair game? And how about those habits we fall into that seem innocuous at first, but prove to be toxic over time? What kinds of expectations are too idealistic for real life...and which are perfectly reasonable? How do external stresses seep into a relationship to make it worse? What negative effects can pregnancy have if we're not vigilant? How about blended families? What happens when men and women confuse being equal with being the same? And no discussion of the little things that can wreck a relationship would be complete without discussion of your sex life together, right? Get ready for a no-holds-barred experience, as no stone gets left unturned. And after listening, get all the free goodies and more by checking out https://mountaintoppodcast.com
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This is the first of a two-part episode with Emily on the little things that either make a relationship with a woman great, or make it suck. Sure, you hear about the major pillars like trust, communication, attraction, etc., but this is a deeper dive into the subtle effects certain mindsets and/or actions have. The first order of business is to describe how big mountains are often (maybe even usually) composed of small pebbles. How important is being playful instead of taking oneself so seriously? What does that even mean? As a man, should you put her needs and OUR needs ahead of YOUR needs? If so, what if your needs never get met? Next we talk about various kinds of 'micro-bursts' that can really supercharge your relationship. What does it mean when I say, 'Freedom from obligation is literally nothing'? How can certain little secret messages and spontaneous flirts change the dynamic between partners for the better? What 'three little words' are every bit as important as 'I love you'? Is talking everything out overrated? Discover the meta-level truth behind small things mattering in a relationship. Next, we reveal the insidious ways we trick ourselves into focusing only on the big picture, with predictably disastrous relationship results What is the important conversation that must take place between a couple before getting married? (Well, there are lots of them, for sure...but this is one that rarely gets mentioned.) How about the little gestures that matter during pregnancy and the early days of parenthood? Yes...we cover those too. Join us for free downloads, show notes and more...including a way to sign up to talk to us free for 25-minutes at https://mountaintoppodcast.com
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People have stopped making sense, the emperor has no clothes everywhere you go, and it seems to anyone with half a brain left that we're living in an Idiocracy. It's scary how prescient movies like that and, say, Wall-e are starting to seem. Critical thinking and personal responsibility aren't only discouraged, they're flat-out vilified. But WHY? Johnny Elsasser from The Art Of Masculinity podcast joins me to piece together how we got to this point, especially with regard to how men and women relate nowadays. Doesn't everyone instinctively know when something is stupid--possibly even those proffering the stupidity themselves? Do they really believe their own narrative, or do they just hope YOU will? Do people trust truth over facts? ...Or is that more like facts over truth? And what's up with all the childish intolerance? I mean, even the anti-bullying movement bullies those who disagree with them. How did we get programmed to politicize virtually everything nowadays? What is it about fear that makes us so stupid...and so easily manipulated? Was there one specific event that dumbed us all down? Or has society been conditioned since LONG before that? Meanwhile, you have bots arguing with each other on Twitter, foxes guarding hen houses and idiots running the asylum. Are we living in The Simulation, or is that yet another dumb idea? How are terms like 'conspiracy theory', 'toxic masculinity' and 'dog whistle' weaponized against our intelligence? And above all, how are men and women supposed to relate to each other? We're in the #MeToo world, yet the media cares little about Ghislaine Maxwell? What other ways has stupidity infiltrated relationships? And how has masculinity itself been spun into ridiculousness? One bona-fide sane thing you can do in the midst of it all is head over to https://mountaintoppodcast.com
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My guest holds top-secret clearance as a Lieutenant Colonel in the USAF, pilots a 787 for United Airlines, practices law AND is a self-help coach. He even hosts his own podcast, The Greg Krino Show. That makes him the right guy to talk about balancing careers, passions and purpose...and there's plenty to discuss. What is the best guiding principle for measuring how much work and responsibility you can pile on your plate? What happens when you have a hard time saying "no"? Given how driven most men can be, do we need paternity leave? Next, discover a genius but simple hack for balancing career responsibility with family commitments. How is a mature, evolved man different in how he goes about balancing multiple responsibilities? What are the red flags that we've either got too much going on...or too little? What are the practical steps to take from there? Listen in for the great ironic truth men need to live by, especially if they work in a service-oriented career. How does passion intersect with intelligence and even talent to help us make wise--and creative--choices? What is the most dangerous thing we can do to trick ourselves into abandoning valid careers choices and life purpose? All this, plus random talk about Area 51, secret ops and whether or not Greg would dare to cheer 'Let's Go Brandon!' to his passengers. Ready to make a bold choice of your own, resulting in better women in your life? Get on my calendar and talk to me free for 25-minutes at https://mountaintoppodcast.com
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Nowadays, many of us as men find it more challenging than ever to relate to women. We hear from the media that our masculinity is "toxic", if it even exists as opposed to being a mere social construct.
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All my exes happen to live in Texas. But does that mean I should remain in contact with them all, let alone maintain friendships with them? I've found the perfect guest to hit this topic with. She's Sabrina Shaheen Cronin, who heads up the Cronin Law Firm in Michigan and has quite an Internet presence in her field. Yes, she's a family law attorney...but FINALLY one who actually puts the interests of all parties involved in her cases at the forefront. We kick it all off by listing potentially good and bad reasons to stay connected with an ex. You know we'll bring up how some of us have a hard time saying 'no', especially if she's hot. Next, we discuss how it's human nature that we generally only think of the good times when reminiscing about someone, don't we? Why do people get divorced and then remarry the same person? Can toxicity only be apparent to one partner, but not to the other? What are some common examples of that? What is the key word that generally decides whether two people can remain friends post-relationship? What has been the effect of social media on people's ability to make good, solid judgments on relationship issues...especially when it comes to exes and co-parenting? If an ex girlfriend resurfaces on Facebook after months or even years, how should you handle it? And OF COURSE you'll get insider tips on how to choose a good, solid, ethical family law attorney rather than one who only has their own financial best interests at heart. Join me for all the free goodies, show notes and more at https://mountaintoppodcast.com
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Most people think about therapy as healing from the past, and as coaches we think and talk more about setting future-oriented goals and reaching them. But the truth is that healing from the past is a necessary step to forging ahead successfully in the future. The truly sobering part is that we as men can go years--even decades--without acknowledging, or even realizing the psychological and emotional wounds we need to recover from. Nevertheless, if your upbringing, past relationships or other circumstances have resulted in deep insecurities or even rage, then you have the power to turn that around and become the man you want to be. That's the entire point of my co-host Justin Long's latest book. For starters, we talk about how the biggest kiss of death is being too hard on ourselves, and how it paralyzes us from going forward with perceived risk. Next, we cover how the dreaded approval seeking tendencies make things worse, sending us into an even deeper spiral of self-doubt and loss of confidence. And even though none of this is gender specific, how is it that we as men seem to suffer through our psycho-emotional setbacks longer than most women do...and needlessly so? What exactly is Justin's take on 'righteous rage', and how should we as men wrestle with it? When does rage turn negative, and what's the ripple effect on the rest of our mindset? Why is it that victimhood opens wounds rather than contributing to their healing? What is the most deceptively dangerous character flaw we can have that keeps us from evolving and becoming better men in general? If you haven't visited in a while, there are lots of free goodies for you at https://mountaintoppodcast.com
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My guest Avi Lev is a cognitive behavioral therapist and the founder/director of the Bay Area CBT Center. She has spent lots of time considering how both men AND women fear rejection, and talks about it in completely different terms than your garden variety old school PUA would have. In this episode you'll discover how our behaviors actually influence how women respond to u, sometimes in unexpected or even counterintuitive ways. What is the dirty little trick we play on ourselves that often results in feeling 'rejected' when we really haven't been? It's like we're our own worst enemy...often. But hold on a second, Avi and I differ on how much we believe confidence helps in rejection-phobic situations with women. How can that be? Next, Avi offers her own interpretation of deserving what you want and how it directly affects getting over fear of rejection. Then we drop a bomb on the whole conversation when we pronounce being 'impressive' straight up irrelevant to approach and attraction. As you may know, I've talked about approach being a conversation, not a competition of acceptance vs. rejection. But Avi wonders aloud what's so bad about rejection, anyway? After all, if we're so wadded up in self-absorbed fear, we might completely forget to evaluate whether or not the woman we're talking to is even as attractive as we hoped she'd be. By the way, do women really get off on rejecting men rudely? How and when do women experience fear of rejection? How do dating pitfalls such as zombieing, benching, love bombing, etc. fit into this? Never before has fear of rejection been so clearly explained or given a real-world remedy. Start your journey to getting a great woman in your life NOW by talking to me free for 25-minutes. Sign up at https://mountaintoppodcast.com
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After over three decades of coaching, my guest has concluded that when we experience PEACE we are more production with regard to that which we deem most important. This led him to develop the controversial 30-Day Opinion Diet. In his words, 'It's a detox for your mind, not your body. Taking a break from constantly judging every situation in your life can do wonders for your mental health.' Now, we already know Twitter and Facebook are designed to draw us into spontaneous and often toxic debate, which keeps us addicted to their platforms. But the social cost of everyone being their own media outlet--and trolling each other--is harsh. So how does ceasing and desisting from scattering our opinions far and wide help us? And how does it actually make us MORE attractive to women? What damage has the 'pack mentality' associated with the echo chamber phenomenon already done to our collective psyche? How are dating apps particularly insidious when it comes to messing with our heads? Listen in as Matthew describes the four separate components of what he calls the 30-Day No Opinion Diet. What was the primal purpose of having opinions, and why does it not serve us so well anymore in this post-modern world? Is opinionated arrogance literally baked-in to our psychology archetypally? If so what do we do about THAT? Discover how people weaponize opinions in sneak attack mode...often without us even knowing what hit us. How can we avoid that from now on? What happens when we not only break ourselves of GIVING opinions, but 'live and let live' with regard to the opinions of others? What are the two exceptional circumstances that might possibly make your opinions matter? Does the Opinion Diet make us less, well, opinionated? Do we gain a more open mind from it? How does that help? Get in on the newsletter and join all the fun at https://mountaintoppodcast.com
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My guest today is a long-time Wall Street Journal reporter who has followed the political lives of presidents, senators and governors. Her new book is called, Why They Stay: Sex Scandals, Deals and Hidden Agendas Of Eight Political Wives. Now, I already know you're probably not tuning in to hear tabloid gossip. But Anne's work is immensely valuable to us as we look inside the relationships the most powerful men in the world have with the women in their lives. Wait until you discover some of the golden truths you can readily apply to your own life, as well as many of the potential relationship pitfalls you can avoid. Indeed, this episode is loading to the hilt with 20/20 foresight. For starters, what behaviors and habits do so-called 'power couples' uniquely exhibit? What do wives of powerful men seem to have in common? Do women necessarily marry high-achieving men simply to leech off of them? Or is it they're seeking to ride 'coat tails' in search of their own power, money, fame as opposed to love? Do some women honestly enter into a relationship with a certain man with a belief they'll change the world together? Is that a turn on for them? On the other hand, if a relationship feels purely transactional, can it still ultimately work? What happens if and when a powerful man loses status, or even falls from grace completely? Is it pure coincidence that only one president was a bachelor? Discover Anne's five factors that tend to decide whether or not a powerful man's wife will stick around no matter what. Finally, objectively speaking, what should high achieving men think about when considering a life partner? Which good traits should we be looking for? What are the warning signs? What about you? Have you found your own 'first lady' yet? Join me for a free 25-minute discussion on your future and the woman in it. Sign up at https://mountaintoppodcast.com
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How do elite performers get on top of their game and stay there? My guest is the eponymous head of Dominique Brightmon International, a member of the John Maxwell team who has quite literally written the book on the subject. Dom has identified seven secret keys to sustainable success, and he reveals all of them in this episode. Listen in as he talks about the concept of self-leadership, and why it differentiates winners from the 'also-rans'. Why are so many people nowadays lapsing into the 'sheeple' mentality? Could it be because gaining control by weakness has become far too effective nowadays? I mean, in such a context, what is the value of even trying to perform at all, let alone at an elite level? How can we sort out following the herd versus what sounds like good ideas versus what's really going to work for us individually? Why is it that self-awareness is so massively lacking in our culture? What has the habit of instant gratification turned most of us into? What is the real dichotomy between working smart and working hard? Do we really have to get up at 4:30am like Jocko? What about affirmations, meditating and stuff like that? And surprisingly...could it be that big goals and dreams may actually be counterproductive? (What?) One thing is for sure amidst it all, trolling each other on Twitter is generally NOT a habit of elite performers. Uplevel your success with women in record time...starting with a free 25-minute visit with me personally. Get on board at https://mountaintoppodcast.com
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I couldn't help but invoke pro bowler Pete Weber's infamous quote as the title of this episode. After all, we're talking about twin flames...the idea that your very soul is split here on earth and one other specific human shares it with you. I've known about this concept for quite a while, but it took until now to find the right guest. Elle Hari is indeed a world-class expert on the subject, having studied under the now-deceased undisputed twin flame guru. Now granted, I realizes this sounds like a chick thing from Cosmo on the surface, but hang with me here. What do we as men need to know, and how can we relate? I mean, is our twin flame destined to be our 'one and only'? Is she hot? Is she even a 'she'? And wait a minute...isn't this really just the same thing as the time-worn soulmate concept? (Spoiler alert...it's not.) Are you supposed to marry your twin flame? After all, wouldn't procreating with your twin flame be like inbreeding your soul? What if your twin flame is far away? Do they have the same birthday? Are identical twins twin flames? What is a push/pull twin flame? And what in the world is a 'soul family'? How do you find this person out of 8 billion people, anyway? Do they have to recognize you? What if they think this twin-flame stuff is total BS? How come the idea of twin flames dates all the way back to Plato, yet most of us have heard about it only recently...if at all? One thing is for sure in the midst of exploring this truly unique topic. We'll get down to whether this is some sort supernatural new-agey thing, or perfectly natural and just widely overlooked. Do you have one big sticking point that's keeping you from success. The new Giant Leap coaching program is designed to clear that roadblock, once and for all. https://mountaintoppodcast.com/leap
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My guest Dr. Gary Salyer is a well-known subject matter expert in the area of attachment theory. That means he has spent a whole lot of time studying how--and why--humans fall in love and the alchemy of relationships. He also knows something about why people fall OUT of love and tend to hurt each other even when they're IN love. His book is called Safe To Love Again, and in this episode we talk about whether or not falling in love is worth it, and if so how to make it last. Why do so many men scoff at the idea of falling in love, as if it's grounds for surrendering one's 'man card'? Is the idea of getting into a long-term relationship with someone specifically because of how one feels toward them legit? After all, it's a relatively modern construct. And what of the confusion among us as men when we're told on one hand to be stoic in our masculinity, while on the other hand being told it's okay and healthy to exhibit more emotion...especially in the context of a relationship? So then, is love a feeling or is it more of a decision? Is it indeed better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all? If we indeed lose love, how do we keep that baggage from negatively affecting our next chance at it? And how does Attachment Theory attempt to make sense of all this? If love is the question, this show has the answers. And if you're ready to move past the roadblocks and find a mutually-fulfilling relationship with the woman of your dreams, now is the time to make a bold move to get her into your life. Start with a free 25-minute consultation with me personally--or check out the BRAND NEW Giant Leap coaching program--both of which you can get going on at https://mountaintoppodcast.com
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It's the foundation of every good solid relationship. With it, you and your significant other are set for years of blissful happiness together. Without it, you're likely doomed to failure. We're talking about trust, of course. Emily and I have enjoyed a trusting relationship with each other for nearly sixteen years now, and she finally sat down with me for a deep dive into all aspects of what that trust looks like. What causes men and women to lack (or lose) trust for each other? How do established mindsets wreak destruction on a nascent relationship before it even has a chance? Should two people trust each other at the beginning blindly, or is that earned over time? What is a reasonable amount of suspicion versus simply being paranoid? What do you do when lack of trust becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy? And how can we shake that nagging feeling of unwillingness to trust again after getting hurt over and over...isn't that kind of like not trusting oneself to begin with? And what about the strain that long-distance relationships put on trust? Do prenuptial agreements automatically betray lack of trust right from the beginning? How much does communication really have to do with all of this? Why does Emily enthusiastically support my in-field outings with you guys to practice meeting women? And for the big finale, we cover the three cornerstones of a good, solid trusting relationship that's built to last. So what about you? Are you in a relationship where trust is lacking, and want to either build it up or get it back? Would you like to get into a healthy relationship but find it hard to trust again? Let's get on the phone together and talk about it. Get on my calendar at https://mountaintoppodcast.com
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Everything would be so much easier if we could just figure out, with absolute certainty, whether a woman was sexually interested in us or not. I mean, we're told to look for eye contact, hair twirling, lip biting and other objective signals, but most of us just never, ever see that sort of thing happening right before our very eyes. Is it that we aren't getting the hints? Or could it be that there's a whole different set of clues we should be looking for? And for sure, it's not like all of these signals happen face-to-face. For example, there's no way we can see a woman twirling her hair through a text message, right? With so many potential scenarios both in-person and virtual, there's got to be a better way to accurately gauge a woman's interest level. Plus, there should be a whole different game plan for a woman you already know compared to a cold approach. My long-time friend and fellow dating coach Bobby Rio joins me to talk about all the different ways women indicate they're into us. Although we'll give you practical and downright actionable steps throughout this episode, you may be surprised by the range of situations we cover. Some of the ideas you hear will sound pretty genius to you, while others may seem somewhat obvious now that we've thrown them on the table. But either way, you'll be armed with real-world knowledge that will revolutionize your confidence and ability to approach women and make the bold moves you know you should. Remember, as always, if you truly want to master attracting and charming women, you can take full advantage of my sixteen years of in-field coaching experience. I've helped hundreds of men get the women they want, and there's no reason you shouldn't be next. It all starts with a free consultation you can set up at https://mountaintoppodcast.com
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Well, this is one of those episodes that had better be a lot of fun, or else we will have missed the point completely. And indeed it is. The deep-dive into how to bring out a woman's playful nature has been a long time coming, and I've finally found the right guest to make it happen. Alicia Munoz is a couples therapist and the wildly-popular author several books, including The Couples Quiz Book. As you may know, I've always believed that one of the greatest skills a man can have is the ability to coax out playfulness in women. After all, 'girls just wanna have fun', and leading in that direction is the very essence of flirtation and absolutely ignites femininity. Yet, many of us as guys are nonplussed by the prospect of doing such, either because we have no idea where to start, we don't exactly grasp the difference between encouraging femininity and actually BEING feminine, or we've been conditioned to be 'stoic' and take ourselves way too seriously. Right off the bat, Alicia brings up the concept of doing vs. being, and describes how mastering that dynamic is the 'secret sauce' to playfulness. What is a real, actual, reliable instance of when a woman can say 'two simple words' and make us adore her and do anything for her? And better yet, what can WE do in order to hear the words we long to hear from women and make them adore US and do anything for US? What is the key mental state we must bring a woman into before she can feel playful? What are the simple, easy secrets to making fun, playful conversation happen? And what does that in turn lead to that's arguably even better? How about if she really seems shy, or even like a 'non-reactor'? Listen to the end to make sure you never experience a boring interaction with a woman ever again...no more awkward silences or dark alleys of doom. Hungry for more? All the free goodies and more are yours for the taking at https://mountaintoppodcast.com
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My guest is the author of 'Mental Illness Is An A**hole', an attention-getting title if there ever was one. Indeed, Gabe Howard has been diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder, which greatly contributed to the downfall of his first marriage. Today, however, he is in a successful long-term relationship spanning ten years. Meanwhile, as you probably know, my own first marriage was rocked by my spouse's mental illness, and I have been vehemently outspoken against getting into relationships with those who are under the care of a psychiatrist for psychoses. I was most certainly up front with Gabe about my opinions, and to his credit he was game to come on the show and present his counter-points anyway. In this episode, he offers plenty of stories and examples...all the while acknowledging others' right to disagree and draw their own conclusions. And you can be sure I didn't hold back on the hard questions. Crazy people may need love too, but can they deserve what they want? Gabe throws his case out on the table in full. Did he succeed in making it? Is his take--and his first-person example--convincing enough? I'll let you be the judge. Meanwhile, have you fallen into a pattern of meeting the wrong women, even though you know you're ready to be a great partner to a fantastic one...if only you could meet her? If you can relate, let's talk. The first call is free, and you can schedule it here: https://mountaintoppodcast.com
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Swagger is a loaded word, isn't it? You may picture someone who is not just super-confident, but downright arrogant, right? Well, my guest Leslie Ehm is the author of a popular book meant to challenge old stereotypes surrounding swagger and redefine them. It's called, Swagger: Unleash Everything You Are To Become Everything You Want. In it, not only does she throw down the differences between mere confidence, arrogance and swagger; she explains how the true essence of it all is about personal power. In fact, she has a whole swagger PROCESS by which you can getchasum for yourself. So then, for starters what are Leslie's three elements that drive swagger? How can you leverage your unique traits and talents to increase it? What inherent risks come with being your authentic self that can actually serve to build swagger? What is the one key factor that makes your personal brand of swagger charming to others rather than off-putting? What should you think and do when people disagree with you, or flat-out don't like you? Ironically enough, why can fame, notoriety and influence be potentially more damaging to your swagger than helpful? What is the one common trait that all who have unshakeable confidence tend to share? And how does that, in turn, relate to the dreaded 'Imposter Syndrome'? Well, we all sense how imposter swagger must be deeply unsatisfying, so definitely stay tuned for all the lowdown on that and so much more. Fall is here, and it's time to get on your action plan to get the right woman in your life. Start with a free phone call with me personally, which you can sign up for at https://mountaintoppodcast.com
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<itunes:summary>Co-Host Leslie Ehm (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/ehm) Swagger is a loaded word, isn't it? You may picture someone who is not just super-confident, but downright arrogant, right? Well, my guest Leslie Ehm is the author of a popular book meant to challenge old stereotypes surrounding swagger and redefine them. It's called, Swagger: Unleash Everything You Are To Become Everything You Want. In it, not only does she throw down the differences between mere confidence, arrogance and swagger; she explains how the true essesnce of it all is about personal power. In fact, she has a whole swagger PROCESS by which you can getchasum for yourself. So then, for starters what are Leslie's three elements that drive swagger? How can you leverage your unique traits and talents to increase it? What inherent risks come with being your authentic self that can actually serve to build swagger? What is the one key factor that makes your personal brand of swagger charming to others rather than offputting? What should you think and do when people disagree with you, or flat-out don't like you? Ironically enough, why can fame, notoriety and influence be potentially more damaging to your swagger than helpful? What is the one common trait that all who have unshakeable confidence tend to share? And how does that, in turn, relate to the dreaded 'Imposter Syndrome'? Well, we all sense how imposter swagger must be deeply unsatisfying, so definitely stay tuned for all the lowdown on that and so much more. Fall is here, and it's time to get on your action plan to get the right woman in your life. Start with a free phone call with me personally, which you can sign up for at https://mountaintoppodcast.com
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My guest Roman Chiporukha and his wife run a high-end travel adventure curation service for the uber-wealthy. Not only does he know a lot of famous and powerful people, his gig has been expanded of late to include space tourism curation as well. In fact, Roman has already seated at least one civilian astronaut on a trip to the ISS in the near future. As you might imagine, Roman has traveled the world extensively (and expensively?) himself. All of this, of course, makes for a fascinating discussion of how being 'worldly' serves us as men. But it also makes a conversation about space travel and colonization a moral imperative. So what has Roman discovered about culture, human perceptions and especially relating to women through all his travels? Well, wait until you hear his ninja advice for charming women no matter where in the world you go. As our conversation moves toward the cosmos, we cover all sorts of wild, futuristic questions. What is sex going to be like in space? How will the first small colonies of people avoid extreme 'island fever' and driving each other nuts? Will people have any privacy? How do you even develop a relationship with someone on a completely different planet? It's going to be a whole new world for sure...and you might not believe how close we are to going there. Roman even mentions how one company is already developing a sex hotel for space! Well, one thing's for sure no matter what...it's absolutely okay to keep your feet firmly planted on the ground as we await the opportunity to reach for the stars. Meanwhile, reach for your keyboard and get on over to https://mountaintoppodcast.com
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Co-Host Dr. Mark Goulston (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/crazy) My Guest Dr. Mark Goulston is a psychiatrist and the world's foremost expert in relational conflict management. He's the author of many NYT bestselling books, including Talking To Crazy: How to Deal with the Irrational and Impossible People in Your Life. Conventional wisdom on how to deal with irrational people is typically that you simply can't. But Mark will systematically dismantle that notion in this episode, offering truly genius ways to communicate with angry, unreasonable and even antagonistic people...even getting them to work WITH you instead of against you. Nowhere is this skill set more important than in our relationships with women, and Dr. Goulston does not disappoint. He brings solid strategies and practical steps to 'taming the shrew', and you'll likely be amazed by how so many of us as men tend to do the exact opposite of what works when arguing with women. Why does telling someone to 'calm down' always seem to make them even more upset? What is it about 'mansplaining' that drives women nuts? When exactly is a smile not what you should be hoping for? And what has Mark learned from years of couples counseling, suicide intervention and training hostage negotiators? Stay tuned until the end for a great story from Mark's single days...what happened when women on dates found out he was a psychiatrist? You'll emerge from this episode feeling more confident than ever anytime conflict arises with the woman in your life, or anyone else. Get on my calendar to talk to me for FREE about solving the puzzles related to getting the right woman in your life. Do so today at https://mountaintoppodcast.com
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My returning guest is the ever-charming Preity Uupala, who brought up the idea of sexual conversation as a topic. Who was I to miss the opportunity to hear from a woman about something so confusing to so many men? I mean, it's easy to wonder how we got nearly eight billion people on this planet when it's so hard for men and women to even talk about sex together, let alone have it. For sure, lots of guys are like the proverbial bull in a china shop when it comes to this. But in times like these, it's FAR more common for many of us to retreat from daring any sexual conversation with woman at all for fear of dire consequences. Meanwhile, women everywhere are craving flirty, sexy and even downright horny conversation with a man who understands the balance and can dance the dance of attraction. In this episode, Preity does her best to present her five rules of sexual conversation, and all the while I do my best to catch her off guard and mess up her composure. In the end, it's a compelling mix of solid information and downright fun. Discover why so many pickup workshops are leading men in the wrong direction, even as women roll their eyes. How 'direct' should we be...and when? What mistakes do we make when we assume women think about sex the way we as men do? What are some classic situations that lend themselves amazingly well to sexual conversation? And what easily affected state of mind almost inevitably leads to wanton horniness? What does Preity have to say to the multitude of men out there who really believe women don't like sex? And of course, you want practical examples of the types of things to say, so that's exactly what you'll get. Join me on the phone absolutely free by getting on my calendar at https://mountaintoppodcast.com
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If you're like any other red-blooded guy out there, the chances are very good that your father never told you about girls, dating and sex. Unfortunately, that left most of us to get what little information we got from deeply flawed sources. Even worse, most of us remained absolutely mystified by girls well into adolescence, early adulthood or possibly even beyond. Well, my guest Michael McPherson is on a one-man mission to make up for lost time. In this all-important episode we hit the ground running, talking first about WHY fathers can't seem to have the 'birds and bees' conversation with their sons--and how single moms (at best) don't tend to do much better. How has porn become the de facto teacher of sex for today's generation of boys...and what are the real-world ramifications of that? What does 'liquid courage' really teach us about sex? What happens when relationships become purely sex focused? How has not learning about women and sex at an early age affected our long-term vision of our own masculinity? And most importantly of all, now what? How do we unlearn whatever bad info we picked up along the way and replace it with more accurate, effective and--yes--positive knowledge? And how do we apply the truth to our relationships with women going forward? Sign up for your first call with me for FREE when you visit https://mountaintoppodcast.com
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Co-Host Timothy Ward (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/goddess) Men and women were clearly designed to get along and be in partnership together, yet in real-world practice that is often replete with challenges. What's up with that? Well, despite the somewhat lofty title of his book Savage Breast: One Man's Search For the Goddess, my guest Tim Ward has happened upon some truly original and at times mindblowing concepts that are flat-out guaranteed to transform how you view relationships between men and women. According to him, all of the answers we seek with regard to understanding women and relating to them just might be found by extending our understanding beyond Western culture...and perhaps even looking into our distant past as homo sapiens. Indeed, there is a wealth of archetypal information and mapping available to us that's actually pretty straightforward, yet often overlooked. Now see though, here's the thing...this is largely a Western world problem. Discover why people of other cultures and (to us) exotic faith traditions have way more figured out about all of this...and have for literally thousands of years. All of this may sound like so much new-age drivel on the surface, but you have my solemn promise that what you are about to hear is not only dead simple, it's extremely practical...just as we love it to be around here. Tune in to the very end for the GOLDEN secret to why men and women in our culture are liking and trusting each other less and less, even as we have fewer reasons for it. Could it really be more archetypal than societal? The ramifications of realizing these factors are straight-up IMMENSE. I've been talking to more and more men, and lives are being transformed. Guys are meeting more women in the process, up to and including the woman of their dreams. For those men, it all started with a 25-minute free call. Schedule yours at https://mountaintoppodcast.com
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Co-Host Rick Kirschner (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/cantstand) My guest is the legendary author of the wildly popular book How To Deal With People You Can't Stand, which has now been published in at least 27 languages. Rick is happily retired nowadays, so he rarely has to deal with such people anymore. For my part, I'm simply thrilled he came out of retirement to join us on this episode. But hey...we all indeed know people who bore us to death with their stuff, always talk about themselves, only contact us when they need something, and/or always attempt to play oneupmanship with us. Then there are the legions of people nowadays who never follow through on what they say they're going to do, the ones who talk behind our back, fake people, people who try to undermine us, people who run 'game' on us, and who try to proselytize us to their MLM downlines. And then, of course, there are always the women who drive us nuts, but we're hot for them anyway. Well, not only has Dr. Kirschner thought through the answers to virtually all of these social dilemmas, his ideas--including his 'lens of understanding'--are decidedly out-of-the-box and probably NOT what you think they'll be. Plan on emerging from this episode with a new measure of wisdom and maturity, along with a treasure trove of practical steps, each sure to win over some of the folks you typically lock horns with...all the while earning the respect and admiration of everyone else. Isn't it time to get on track with finding the greatest woman you've ever met and living the dream with her? Call me and talk to me 25 minutes for free by clicking the red box in the upper right-hand corner at https://mountaintoppodcast.com
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My guest co-host this week is a disciple of Robert Cialdini himself, only not quite retired just yet and IMHO a bit more practical in how he speaks about his area of expertise. The topic, of course, is influence...more specifically, how to be more influential and gain personal power, all without being obnoxious, unethical or creepy about it. Why is it that so few men are truly influential? Could it be because most of us simply don't know how power and influence work? What is the relationship between wisdom, benevolence and leadership relative to influence? How about the art of persuasion...can it EVER be ethical, or is it simply a dirty word? What are the key differences between influence and straight-up manipulation? How is dating and attraction like sales? Let's just say solid sales strategies are VERY similar to effective attraction principles, whether you like it that way or not. Could that be why the pickup artist era was infamous for such manipulative or even flat-out sleazy tactics? Wait until you hear the stark contrast between those ideas and how Brian met and attracted the woman in his life. Add it all up, and this podcast will help propel you to greater heights as a leader and as a man of influence, all while guarding you against being manipulated and 'owned' in your own life. What more can you ask from an episode? Are you sick of second place? Let's put a plan of action in place that empowers you to WIN...not only with women, but also in your career and in your social life. That opportunity and many more are waiting for you at https://mountaintoppodcast.com
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