Co-Host Doug Noll (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/noll) My guest today, Doug Noll, is a neuroscience expert. After 22 years as a trial lawyer, he became a peacemaker and mediator. In order to work his craft to the fullest effect, he spends lots of time thinking and writing about social skills. All of this started for Doug when he found himself frustrated by how most writing on Emotional Intelligence was based purely on pop psychology. Seeking a more practical, fluff-free approach, Doug instead focused on the science behind how the brain really works, rather than how people think it works. As a direct result of all this research and real-world practice, he's now the New York Times bestselling author of De-Escalate: How To Calm An Angry Person In 90 Seconds Or Less. So out with it then...what IS the scientific basis for social skill? Can you teach Emotional Intelligence, or is it innate like IQ? What are the signs of good or bad EI? In other words, Is it you, or is it me? What are the three basic emotional competencies that we can have mastery over in our lives? What is 'affect labeling', and why is it so central to good social skill? What does it mean to 'read the room', and how can we get better at it? What is the ninja secret to making particularly attractive women take notice of you and want you? What's more, how can you make any woman fall in love with you in two minutes or less? Get on my calendar to talk to me for free. It's for real...just click on the red button in the upper right-hand corner at https://mountaintoppodcast.com
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Co-Hosts Anne Dranitsaris and Heather Hilliard (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/caliber) This is one of those rare shows featuring two guests. Anne and Heather specialize in empowering leaders to greater excellence, but what really caught my attention was their work in helping people deal with jerks, while also helping jerky people be less so. Probably the most fascinating part of it all is the premise that plenty of us are acting like jerks without even realizing it. So then, how is 'jerk' defined, anyway? Is being jerky synonymous with being narcissistic? Or is there more to it? Are jerks born or made? Is there any hope for that guy who's genuinely trying not to be a jerk, but he has to consciously fight it at every turn? And what if someone actually likes being a jerk and doesn't care to change? What do you do if someone who is a jerk starts acting like you're the jerk, not them? And how can you really tell? How does 'the quest to be right' apply to jerky behavior? Do you really have to be either 'Mr. Nice Guy' or a 'Bad Boy Jerk'? Why do douchebags get ahead? Meanwhile, nice guys get no respect, and shy guys are often responded to in flat-out anger. Why do our efforts not to upset people often end up with people being more upset? Is today's culture of victimization creating more jerks...or simply shining the light on the ones who have always been out there? What if your boss is a jerk? What is it about management and the Dunning-Kruger Effect? And why do we keep voting jerks into high political office? Check out show notes, free downloads and much more at https://mountaintoppodcast.com
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Co-Host JP Pawliw-Fry (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/jp) My guest today is the New York Times bestselling author of Performing Under Pressure. And surely JP Pawliw-Fry knows what he's talking about, having worked with NFL and NBA players and Olympic athletes. So with the Olympic Games going on, what better time than this to talk about how the best perform so well under pressure, and how we as men can do the same--be it on the field, in the workplace or (of course) interacting with women. Why is performance such an important issue for men? Is pressure a bad thing? How do we turn it into a positive? Is there really such thing as people who perform better under pressure? What differentiates people who thrive on pressure? Do people who master this skill do better in life? IOW, do higher stakes lead to bigger accomplishments? Why do young children often seem to do better with pressure? What is 'the last 8 percent'? Why is it so hard to have the conversations we want with women...especially when we KNOW they need to happen? What is the most common conversation men truly avoid having with women...and why do we avoid it? What do people tend to do when under pressure that just makes the situation even more tense...while causing an even a lesser probability of success? What happens to people's ethical standards as the stakes get higher? If you happen to be in the business world, what are the practical ways you can work the insights from this episode to your distinct advantage? And more importantly, what are the direct takeaways when it comes to meeting, attracting and relating to women? Check out the main website for free downloads, show notes and more: https://mountaintoppodcast.com
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Co-Host Helena Nista (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/nista) Personality type in general is widely discussed in psycho-social circles, but I have never heard anyone openly discuss the idea of sexual personality. Indeed, the concept even caught world-renowned sex expert Helena Nista off guard. But she told me she LOVED the idea, and agreed to join us for a second week in a row...this time to boldly blaze a new trail. We start by suggesting several potential 'sexual avatars' a woman may portray. What are these different kinds of women like, and can we pick them out of a crowd before actually taking them to bed? How can we tell which women will be most sexually compatible with us? What can we tell from even the first kiss? Do some of them have plenty to teach us? Do women evolve or even voluntarily change their sexual personalities over time? Can we influence that in any way? Is sexual personality potentially more confusing or even somewhat 'hidden' because of societal pressures and stereotypes? And what about us as men...do we have sexual personality types as well? If so, how can we actively portray the type of man we really want to be in that respect? When you get right down to it, aren't we all really individuals when it comes to all this? Or are there really patterns we can deconstruct and make sense of here? At the very least, can women exhibit a certain sexual personality type pattern at one time, but a completely different one the next? And here's the BIG question...what if the real truth is that couples create a unique sexual personality TOGETHER between them? Check out all the free downloads and other good surprises when you visit https://mountaintoppodcast.com
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